Dr. Rob and CNY Fertility Center embrace social networking
Dr. Rob Kiltz and the CNY Fertility Center have taken the plunge and joined the web based social networking movement. See below for a list of the many places on the Internet where you can join us and learn more about what we are doing in our day-to-day lives.
CNY Fertility Center on Facebook.com (you’ll need to join to see our full profile – it’s free) – click here
CNY Fertility Center on Twitter.com – click here
CNY Fertility Center on YouTube.com – click here
Dr. Rob Kiltz on Facebook.com (you’ll need to join to see his full profile – it’s free)- click here
Dr. Rob Kiltz on Twitter.com – click here
Dr. Rob Kiltz on YouTube.com – click here
Dr. Rob’s personal inspirational blogging website where he posts a daily intention Monday through Friday (MindBodySmile.com) – click here
Why some women decide to become an egg donor
For some, it may be difficult to understand why a woman would want to donate her eggs. On our journey here at CNY Fertility Center, we have encountered thousands of reasons to give the gift of life. Most often our donors are young women who have had a family member or friend face the challenges of infertility. They understand the overwhelming heartbreak and joy that is associated with the process of creating a family. Similarly, many of our donors have children of their own and are so grateful to have experienced such an amazing love, they want to help another woman have that same opportunity.
Regardless of your reason for donating, the truth is that you are creating a life, and a special love that would not have otherwise existed. You are committing a selfless and powerful act that brings another human being into this world to be loved, cared for, and cherished.
As mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, and partners it is imperative we support each other, and even carry each other when needed. Egg donation is the ultimate gift for a woman to receive, and the satisfaction of giving this gift is beyond words to describe.
Please consider giving the gift of life, and family. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to email or call any of our Egg Donor Coordinators, at CNY Fertility Center, listed below.
Phone: 800.539.9870
Stephanie Rogers
Srogers@cnyfertility.com
Pati Breh
Pbreh@cnyfertility.com
Lisa Stack
Lstack@cnyfertility.com
Chris Gray
Cgray@cnyfertility.com
Infertility, Acupuncture, Pregnancy – One woman’s story
Below is an interesting video by First Coast News about a woman named Andrea and her journey through infertility that included acupuncture treatments. At CNY Fertility Center we encourage mind/body/spirit therapies such as acupuncture and massage while undergoing your fertility treatments. We believe they do make a difference.
Benefits of Fertility Massage
The fertility process can become an extremely stressful time for everyone involved, and one of the primary factors is often high stress levels. If you’re undergoing infertility treatments, you may balk at the notion of spending money on anything that does not directly involve eggs and sperm, but give yourself permission to get an occasional massage. The relaxation will serve your body, mind, and spirit well.
Fertility massage is designed to decrease stress and increase the blood flow to the reproductive system. The massage is a combination of cranial decompressions, deep abdominal massage, cleansing of toxins, and foot reflexology. At CNY Healing Arts we also focus on the structural alignment of your body and pelvic area. The techniques used help with the reduction of adhesions and increase blood circulation and the movement of cerebral spinal fluid.
Another way to think of proper posture of the pelvic area, imagine you are dragging your garden hose across the yard to water your garden, the hose becomes kinked the strong current of water is reduced if you leave the kink the water supply is limited, the garden will not receive enough liquid to grow. Now imagine your left hip is higher than your right, what is happening to your internal organs “compression” limited blood supply and the start of adhesions and dysfunction.
Fertility massage is not intended to replace medical procedures however; it can be done on its own or to compliment medical fertility treatments.
*For information on Fertility Massage contact John Capozzi, LMT, at CNY Healing Arts by calling 315.671.5755 or emailing him at jcapozzi@cnyhealingarts.com.
How to become an egg donor at CNY Fertility Center
Once you make the decision to become an egg (oocyte) donor the next question is, where do I start? The process is really quite simple and we at CNY Fertility Center are here to guide you through the process. Initially you should visit our website, www.cnyfertility.com and browse the Donor Program pages. Here you will find information regarding why we need donors, and how the process works. Here, you can also fill out an Egg Donor Survey. The survey is a series of questions pertaining to your personal and family medical history, your reason for donating, as well as your general outlook on life. You will also be asked more personal questions such as your contact information and social security number. These personal questions are never seen by anyone but our Egg Donor Coordinators and are used simply for us to contact you to begin the donation process. Finally, there is the option to upload photos for the recipients to view.
Once we have reviewed your profile, we will schedule a phone consultation with one of our Donor Program representatives at CNY Fertility Center. We have offices in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY. We will review the donation process with you in depth, as well as ask any questions that may arise regarding your medical history. When the consultation is complete, and you have signed the appropriate consent forms, we will make your profile active. When the profile is made active our potential recipients will be able to view your medical history, photos, and the personal questions describing why you want to donate your eggs. Recipients will never see your contact information such as, name, phone number, SSN, etc..
The decision to donate is incredibly selfless and loving. Our donors are from different cultural and age groups. They each have their own story that brought them to the place in their life where they wanted to be an Egg Donor. As an Egg Donor, you will be giving the gift of life to a family that has experienced a long journey of infertility.
If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to email or call any of our Egg Donor Coordinators, at CNY Fertility Center, listed below.
Phone: 800.539.9870
Stephanie Rogers
Srogers@cnyfertility.com
Pati Breh
Pbreh@cnyfertility.com
Lisa Stack
Lstack@cnyfertility.com
Chris Gray
Cgray@cnyfertility.com
Love & Infertility Workshop Q & A
During Part 2 of Dr. Rob’s Love & Infertility Workshop Series that took place in Syracuse, NY for CNY Fertility Center Clients the below questions were asked. It was a very useful exercise so Kristen Magnacca wanted to share the questions and answers here.
Questions & Answers:
Thank you to everyone who submitted a question during our last workshop. The questions were very thoughtful and I hope you’ll find them helpful. -Kristen Magnacca
When you think about the worst- case scenario, how do you allow yourself to accept those possibilities? Should You?
This is such an important questions. How do you stay optimistic and allow for the possibility for the negative outcome. For me, it is calling out the elephant in the room and acknowledging the fear. Then once done, creating a system to release all the charge behind the fear.
First of all it takes great strength and bravery to admit that you are afraid and then take action to move through the fear. The emotional of fear is not a “bad” thing it is natural and organic, it’s what we do with the fear that matters. Allowing yourself to “visit’ the worst case scenario doesn’t mean that you’re going to live there all the time, it’s accepting your feelings at the current moment and the taking steps to get back to the positive flow as soon as possible.
Here are the four steps to the proactive formula. Try to practice integrating them into your thought process when you feel the fear come up and start taking over:
The Proactive Formula
1) An obstacle occurs (What are you afraid of?)
2) Realize that your reaction, not the obstacle, is the real enemy
3) Shut down your reactive system to allow the Light in (take a deep breath, ask yourself “Is this a helpful thought?”
4) Express your proactive nature: If you’re stuck at how to express your proactive nature, simply invoke “thanks” in the current moment. Saying a simple “thank you” is like Kryptonite to fear. You can’t hold the direct opposite of fear vs. scarcity, when you’re expressing thanks.
“Thank your strong and wonderful body for working so hard as we bring forth our baby” or “thank you universe, I feel safe and protected”
What are some ways you’ve seen your goals/dreams materialized after you first began creating your vision board?
Materializing dreams through the vision board can be a bit surprising! I remember putting a piece of paper on my vision board that represented a desire and it getting covered over by another photo. When I moving the board the buried slip feel off, staring back at me from the ground, I glanced at the photo and was a bit overwhelmed because, I had manifested the identical item. How did that happen when I wasn’t even seeing that desire on a day-to-day basis? There is magic in writing your goals down and creating a vision of where you’re going!
It all sounds so great but how do you fit it in(reading, self care, etc)?
It does all sound so great doesn’t it? How do you fit it in to an already overloaded system of living?
You must engage that 5% of your brain, which is conscious during the day and schedule, arrange and commit to change and progress. Pick one strategy and work it for 21 days to create a habit. But the secret is to commit to doing it for that length of time. Remember the RAS? That part of your brain that creates your associates? Well, right now your associations to these strategies are “will I have to do them forever? One more thing, great! I don’t have time for one more thing”
Quiet that part of your brain and state for example that you’ll commit to journaling for 21 days, and see if this is the correct strategy for you. You’ll feel your whole body exhale and say “sure”! I can do anything for 21 days! Now STICK to it. Pick the right strategy for you!
Like you I am a detail oriented list-making planner, a pessimistic optimist (planning for the worst while hoping for the best) but many people are not like this. The young ladies’ question about acknowledging fear points out differences in personality. So what about those who are not list makers?
I love this question! List vs. non-list makers! I hear the concern about allowing yourself to feel the fear and then moving on; because for some of us it is too difficult to acknowledge that feeling and then regroup. It is the difference between internal and external motivation. Internal meaning that you can hear yourself speak in your head, see the pictures in your mind’s eye or get a sense or feeling of the fear, acknowledge it and then get yourself back to center. Some externally motivated people have a difficult time because they rely on the outside world for refocusing and to come back to balance.
Both “types” of individuals need to remember one thing:
The energy around the fear is not bad or good, it just is! First acknowledging it is not a “bad” thing to feel fear is the most powerful diffuser regardless of the list making or non list makers.
The line I use to myself is this “Here I go again, feeling afraid of ____okay, those feelings are here now but will change in a moment”. Then I use the proactive formula to call in the light.
How do you stop the “ticking time bomb” feeling? I worry constantly about getting older (and I’m only 34).
That old, silent and crazy making ticking time bomb! You almost want to scream! TURN IT OFF!
The feeling of running out of time is so common in this journey and in life. The quickest way to bring yourself back to the present moment, which is the most productive way of dealing with future based thinking is to look down at your feet. (It sounds a bit silly)
Notice the floor that you’re standing on and then take a deep breath. Saying to yourself ” We are working so hard at creating our family and I am so grateful for the people who are helping us along the way”. Remaining grounded in the present has a white noise effect on that ticking tomb bomb.
When you practice acknowledging the feelings of “running out of time”and then reframe the response in your head to what you are doing not what needs to be done you are creating different associations to time. Revisit the shift from time to energy by listing all the positive ways your are using your energy to move forward.
How do you keep a good relationship with your husband going through infertility?
The most important concept is over communication and the trick is determining what is the appropriate or most desired way of communicating.
Communicating in a way that is the best for your partner.
Creating time to acknowledge your relationship and giving thanks for your spouse is such an amazing exercise, especially under such great pressure.
The more you can understand the other person’s point of view and acknowledge the way that they need to be supported during this time the better the chance of creating a self protected boundary around your relationship. Implementing the honey do list, writing your love story, planning a time together that is a “fertility issue” free zone, consistently reconnecting to the feelings of your foundations. Re-establishing the associations of love and support by nurturing your relationship.
Reminding yourself that neither one of you are at your peak performance or behaving as “normal” and accepting this “new normal” for this brief time is powerful.
Accepting that this is a temporary condition and you will re-adjust.
What is gratitude? Isn’t that a virtue?
Thankfulness is a virtue. What I mean by gratitude is a way of “being” on a cellular level. So that when disappointment and negative experience happen along this journey you have this foundation to fall back on. Notice I didn’t say negative feelings won’t be felt, I said that you can count on the carry over effects of gratitude to help you come back to center and move forward faster.
Thankfulness is a gift and a virtue.
What is the best thing a husband can do to support his wife with this?
Just asking this question scores you major awesome husband points. Remembering The Golden Rule doesn’t apply right now; do onto others as you would have done unto yourself. It is more do onto your wife what she needs right now. Simply asking the questions “how can I support you the most” will get you the information that you need. Remember to engage in the Duck and Dodge, Strategy 14, in my book. Let her tell you all that she needs to and keep repeating, “I don’t have to fix this____ I just have to listen for the next 5 minutes and that is doing so much for my wife”.
*Dr. Rob’s Love & Infertility Workshop Series is about to begin in the Latham, NY CNY Fertility Center on January 24th. Part 2 and Part 3 will be held during the months of February and March. If you are interested in attending any of these 3 workshops please email Chris at cbriel@cnyfertility.com. This workshop series is offered by Dr. Rob Kiltz as a gift to all CNY Fertility Center Clients. More information here.
Dr. Rob Kiltz on Integrative Fertility Care
In the video below, Dr. Rob Kiltz takes a moment to share his philosophies on Integrative Fertility Care that he is implementing at his CNY Fertility Centers and CNY Healing Arts Centers in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
PCOS & Circle of Hope Support Group Meetings for January
Below are the dates and times of January’s Support Meetings for Albany and Syracuse CNY Fertility Centers. We hope you can attend and look forward to seeing you.
Albany Circle of Hope Support Meeting :
Tuesday, January 13 2009 7:00PM-8:30PM
We will meet in the CNY Fertility Center Reception Area
38A Old Sparrowbush Road Latham, NY 12110
Circle of Hope is a peer support group for current and former patients of CNY Fertility Center who are experiencing difficulties coping with the realities of infertility, treatments and pregnancy loss. This autonomous group was created by former patients and is a forum for patients to find support from others experiencing the same issues, to ask questions about treatments, discuss how best to cope with the emotional aspects of infertility, and to learn about different paths to parenthood.
*Please RSVP to Stacey Dicerbo via email at sdicerbo@cnyfertility.com
Syracuse PCOS & Circle of Hope Support Meeting:
Tuesday, January 20 2009, 6:00-7:30PM
We will meet in the CNY Fertility Center Reception Area
195 Intrepid Lane, Syracuse, NY 13205
Come join us this month at our combined PCOS and Circle of Hope meeting. We will take some time to relax, share with one another and discuss a helpful tool – Vision Boards. Vision Boards are nothing more than a poster board with a collage of pictures, words and phrases that have meaning to you. You’re vision board can be a powerful visual tool to inspire you to attain your goals.
* Please RSVP to Meg Marnell via email mmarnell@cnyfertility.com
Dr. Rob’s Workshop Offerings at CNY Healing Arts
We have several workshop offerings during the month of January, 2009. Some will be held at our Syracuse, NY location and others will be held at our new Latham, NY location. Click here to visit our CNY Healing Arts website and read the details. Remember our workshops are no charge to attend. They are a gift to you provided by Dr. Rob and CNY Healing Arts to enjoy as part of your Integrative Fertility Care with us at CNY Fertility Center.
Vision boards and integrative fertility care
Click here to watch the CNN video that describes using a vision board as part of an integrative fertility care approach. CNY Fertility Center and Dr. Robert Kiltz strongly believe in the benefits of utilizing a combination of western medicine and eastern philosophies to provide an integrative approach to fertility care.
How to create a vision board:
- Obtain a plain poster board
- Get some glue, scissors, magazines
- Cut out pictures of anything that motivates, inspires, relaxes you
- Cut out pictures of the things that you are striving to obtain
- Glue the pictures on to your poster board
- Include some inspirational words or phrases
Voila! You have created a vision board to use on a daily basis as a visual reminder of what you are striving to add to your life. A vision board can be a powerful tool to be utilized during your infertility journey.
