April’s Journey to Fertility: Week Forty Two

April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.

Week 42: Resources and Personal Update
I know many of you were cheering my husband and me on as we went through our first IVF cycle. Unfortunately, we were not able to complete the cycle because of some problems with my eggs. We were devastated. Who wouldn’t be? After I received the initial call informing me of the news, I had so many questions. I then took inventory of my resources and began my own research to see what I could discover so I could feel empowered. Sometimes this journey is about doing whatever you have to in order to maintain some sort of control over the process.

My first task was to e-mail my yoga group. They are much like a support group. I had taken a long hiatus from Yoga for Fertility for a number of reasons – my busy schedule being the most commonly occurring excuse. I attended one class two weeks ago and was welcomed into a group of chatty, kind, humorous and supportive women. I already love them! They responded to my news with knowledge and had many personal uplifting stories that left me encouraged and uplifted.

My second step was to talk to Kristen Magnacca, author of Love and Infertility and Girlfriend to Girlfriend who is also a life coach. Over the last 10 months or so she has become a mentor to me. Her ability to listen and offer a creative perspective is remarkable. If you haven’t read one of her books yet, I recommend you do so. If you haven’t attended one of her workshops (in-person or by telephone) I highly recommend you take advantage of these opportunities Dr. Rob offers to all of us. Kristen always makes me laugh and allows my resiliency and strong spirit to resurface. I usually end my phone calls or workshops with Kristen feeling as if parenthood is not only possible, it is inevitable!

Finally, I rummaged through my fertility books. I hope to soon have a resource page for all of my readers which will provide an explanation of each of the resources listed below as well as others.

My go-to resources include:

The Couple’s Guide to Fertility, 3rd edition  by Gary S/ Berger, M.D., Marc Goldstein, M.D.,  and Mark Feurst

Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, MPH

Conceptions and Misconceptions by Arthur L. Wisot, M.D. and David R. Meldrum, M.D.

Fertility for Dummies by Jackie Myers-Thompson and Sharon Perkins, RN

Inconceivable by Julia Indichova

Wishing you resiliency and empowerment,
April all Year

Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:

Week forty one: What if…

Week forty: Creating Families and Parenthood for Me

Week thirty nine: Trusting Fate

Week thirty eight: A Little Review

Week thirty seven: Really!

Week thirty six: Thankfully

Week thirty five: Groundhog Day… Again

Week thirty four: Empowerment

Week thirty three: Fearful

Week thirty two: Life’s Haze

Week thirty one: Feel Fabulous

Week thirty: Counting Your Blessings

Week twenty nine: The Holidays

Week twenty eight: Making yourself a priority

Week twenty seven: The truth is…

Week twenty six: Making a Plan

Week twenty five: Attitude of Gratitude

Week twenty four: Giving

Week twenty three: De-cluttering

Week twenty two: The Voice from Within

Week twenty one: Marital Bliss Part II

Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility

Week nineteen: The changing seasons

Week eighteen: Grand Opening

Week seventeen: Trust your place

Week sixteen: Labels

Week fifteen: Keeping the faith

Week fourteen: Keep at it

Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage

Week twelve: Acupuncture

Week eleven: A little bit at a time

Week ten: Well-timed reminders

Week nine: Summertime

Week eight: Resiliency

Week seven: Tiny miracles

Week six: Bahama Mama

Week five: The right path for us

Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”

Week three: Deliberate choices

Week two: This moment

Week one: My story

2 Responses to “April’s Journey to Fertility: Week Forty Two”

1. Kristen says:

   March 31, 2010 at 6:05 pm

   Great post April!! Infertility definitely pushes us to our limits and lets us see just how strong we really are. I am so glad to see you are feeling a little better.
2. Katrina says:

   April 12, 2010 at 5:47 am

   April, my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years and after going to another local Albany Dr, we took a break. The doctor, the treatments, and the stress put a big strain on our marriage. We have since worked on us but the pain of infertility is still there. I see people all around me getting pregnant so easily or making comments that are so hurtful, and I find myself getting so resentful and bitter. I even recently heard of a friend’s sister getting pregnant and was so upset becuase I know that their marriage is beyond failing and it makes me question god and karma. In the whole process, I still read your posts each week and even if I doubt myself, my body, and my ability to have a baby or even be a good mother, you still bring me hope each week. I have wanted to write you for just about 40 weeks now, but I’ve finally brought myself to be honest and voice me feelings. It breaks my heart everytime I read your post and you are not writing in all caps telling us how excited you are that you are pregnant, but I know that it will happen for you! God could not put a woman on this earth as amazing and caring as you and not make her a mother! I wish you the best, I thank you dearly for the strength you give me each week, and if you ever need a friend to vent who understands your feelings, please do not hesitate to email me