Alexis & Jesse

Alexis & Jesse's Story:

Jesse and I have been together for quite a long time now. About ten years. We both always wanted kids, and I decided to stop birth control when I was roughly 19. With the mindset "well, if it happens, it happens."

Years went by, and at about 21, I thought to myself, hmm... something should have happened. That's when I joined a flood of Facebook groups for women trying to conceive, learning different lingo like OPK and BFP.

So now, I had the knowledge to start actually trying. I probably spent hundreds in opks, supplements, vitamins, and other things that women swore by.

Finally, Jesse and I went to the doctor in 2014 hoping for some answers... but everything was fine, I was given Clomid I thought "alright, this is it here we go."

But after six months of being optimistic and nothing, I started becoming more and more depressed. It was now in 2016. I decided to do some more advanced tests like an HCG. They found out my left fallopian tube was blocked; however, that still didn't fully explain why.

Another turn of the year and I'm becoming more of a mess being in pain, praying, crying, begging, pleading, and still not having answers and getting my period each month was just sending me into a slump of sadness with the turn of the month.

I knew in the bottom of my heart IVF was our only hope. But how?! How am I going to afford this multi-thousand dollar treatment?! Jesse and I are just "Average Joes". I'm watching YouTube videos of people blogging their IVF journeys they're successful. They seem to have it all together. Almost like couples from "house hunters" lol where they seem to somehow afford the impossible on the most insane budget.

IVF just seems like an unattainable fantasy to me. But nonetheless, I scour the internet for some advice or help. I fall for a few "get pregnant fast" schemes out there. But then one day in my venting online, someone mentions "have you heard of cny fertility?"

I ask for more information. She gives me the prices she gives me the info... and I'm just thinking no way... like noooo wayyy... there is some trick here. There must be some fine print... I scanned online for reviews. And see all these five-star reviews. Pictures of couples holding their babies. Stories from people like me and my husband, stories of single moms or LGBT couples. People who aren't "rich" with money, but "rich" with love and have so much love to offer a child.

Finally, gears turn in my head. There's an option. There's hope. The feeling is odd because I haven't had hope in a long time. I call my husband I call my mom. It takes some convincing but soon I get everyone on board.

I schedule for an appt. There was a long wait, but May 2018 I finally get my first phone consultant.

Soon a whole box of meds are sent to my doorway.

I'm still full of emotions. What if I do this wrong? What if this doesn't work? I try to stay hopeful. I read more and more success stories.

Finally, August 2018 I go in for the egg retrieval. I am so happy but its soon brushed away when I find out I only have 1 "fair rated" blastocyst.

What are the odds?! Now I'm back into my slump of depression. It's not going to work... my faith is nearly shattered. I'll have to do all this over again and it may take a few years to save up again. I am 27 at this point and still young but time isnt on our side.

Nonetheless, I go back for a frozen transfer on Christmas eve. I stayed in NYC for a few days before the transfer and decided to pray at St.Patricks Cathedral the day before I get on the mega-bus up to Albany. I prayed again some more. After the procedure, I did some acupuncture.

I didn't want to get my hopes up but I kind of couldn't help it. Maybe i just knew. I flew back home to Minnesota on Christmas... then the dreaded two week wait.

I do some blood work... Oh my gosh, finally January 9th, 2019, I get a phone call from cny... it's crazy I had been looking forward to it all my life... but my stomach still sank with uncertainty... I answer.

Is this Alexis? Yes, this is her.. then the words I had been waiting for way to long for...

"Congratulations, Ms. Adler, you are pregnant"...

On September 21st, 2019 I gave birth to my Christmas miracle.

He is the perfect little boy.
My "Miracle" Myles.

Helpful resources Alexis & Jesse found:

Accupinture and yoga were great to keep my centered

Hope, Inspiration and Advice:

It is okay to be sad. You don't have to be happy the whole time. This is a stressful Journey. It's okay to take a break from social media. It's okay to yell. It's okay to cry.